Chinese Warrior

Conflict Resolution Top Level Options


When challenged by banishment, or the welcoming committee what can we do?

The most important suggestion for almost all of these exercises is to write down our concerns. Especially if we're emotionally distraught. We need to get past our anger to problem solve at all. Please see Problem Solving Training, or Step Primer for a more complete description of how to do so, including worksheets you can use in the safety of your home or shelter.

  • We could file charges if we believe we know who's responsible for violating our Human Rights.
  • We could try to rebuild our good character by being open with our lives as in a political or marketing play by being transparent. Please see: Public Relations Campaigns
  • We can work with the angry parties themselves by reaching out to address they're concerns before the grievance becomes a personal problem or a public issue by using: Self Advocacy (Ironic terms aren't they?) Beware of this option if you have not fully understood the Nature of Your Wrongs, or if the parties are violently angry. Seek Professional Advice if necessary.
  • Before abandoning hope, and perhaps as the best option, try: Self Examination, Problem Solving, or a tried and true solution like the 12 Step Program Steps to be sure of what you're doing before using blame at all, but the point here is to get good at both self-examination, and working for change.

You might not think your guilty of a crime, but others might. The lack of assistance and abandonment we sometimes face may be based upon blame we are unaware of. Matter of fact, crimes I've tried to get something done about may have led criminals to cast doubt upon me well enough to shift blame, show motive, or avoid accountability based upon my own judgements, or lack thereof. When we are open about the things we resent, be can become manipulated by our own anger. Please see: 12 Step Program Steps

Though you might not think you've lost your cool about the situation, the frustration and anger that result from blame are in fact a form of insanity, and though you may actually have a case....tactics of denial may lead to labels that indicate that you're not competent with the truth. An example of how sinister that can become can be seen by this example: Depressed people are usually more accurate about reality than happy people are! Happy people are more often deluded, or at a minimum, unrealistically optimistic than the depressed and worse! Please see: Network Interference

You may plead "Guilty, but Not Guilty by Reason of Insanity" if you are guilty of a crime, but did not know it, or did not know what you were doing at the time.

Or you may plead "Not Competent to Stand Trial" if you or professionals do not believe you know the difference between right and wrong and seek treatment for your condition, but you are likely to serve the maximum sentence for your crime in a treatment setting, and when you are done there is no guarantee you will be released.

You could plead for a "Restoration of Sanity" if you believe you now know that you have done wrong, and are prepared for re-entry, but you may not survive the rigors of community based evaluation and testing and may return to supervised care and treatment modalities in a treatment setting until you are prepared to surrender completely to any form of aggression and control that may exist in the community as a result of the behavior you now realize is wrong.

It might be easier to plead "Guilty", "Not Guilty", or "No Contest" to seek a restoration of sanity than to use the health care system to treat what they consider to be a hopeless condition. At least when you've achieved your goal, you can return to a dignified life, unlike those with Mental Health Department Labels, or Chemical Dependency, for whom there seems to be no holiday.

Try this yourself!

Its easy to see when you keep a log. Take a good look at your complaints. Let them sit for a few days, and then look at them again. Its easy to see that they form the basis of your suffering. Almost invariably, we find later that we had something to do with the injury ourselves, and that by trying to blame others, we made matters worse. Even if someone else is to blame, can we realistically expect them to change for us? How easy was it for you to, for example, quit using foul language etc? So many people fall into that trap I developed this Mission to try to help deal with it. It can be literally humiliating.

An example of the results of public complaints can be found here: Log

Adaptation in the Digital Age

Our goal here is to adapt to our new environment, and treat the conditions that result from our work.

  • Inflammation of the body: For example, inflammation from the stress of working in a cramped environment, or on a phone or tablet with small repetitious movements (such as texting). The most effective approach found right here is Bodywork
  • Inflammation of the mind: Dealing with fear, anger and even remorse, (anger turned inwards). Anger is one of the worst and most toxic emotions and can literally burn us up inside. Use the tools we've developed here at: PTSSS Core Teaching to address the source of diseases at their roots.
  • Inflammation of each other: In order to remedy conflicts or grievance or to make amends and apologize for our behavior, we can follow through with each of the following worksheets on Fear, and Conduct, also at: PTSSS, Core Teaching and ultimately reconcile with Amends (same link) when we've become clear why we're dealing with a physical threat in our own environment. Our worksheets there will help you to find a way to deal with the reality of the problem carefully. Again, please see: PTSSS Core Teaching to accomplish your goals.

What can we do when confronted by life threatening circumstances, criminal exploitation or defamation?

  • In the United States, we can call upon our right to confrontation.
Under the Constitution of the United States, we cannot be condemned without an named accuser, a written accusation and an opportunity to defend ourselves.

That Constitutional Law was established as a result of careful evaluation of the Biblical Account of the Lynching of Christ:

When Jesus was brought before the High Priest and questioned he said:
"I spake openly to the worlde and....in secret I have said nothing....Why askt thou Me?...beholde, they know what I said."

When denied confrontation before the Roman Governor he said:
"Saist thou that of thy self, or did other tel it thee of Me." ...and before the Sanhedrin:

"If I tell you, ye will not believe me. And if also I aske you, ye will not answer Me, nor let Me go."

(To be condemned without an accuser, and accusation, and a defense in the United States is a violation of our Constitutional Rights and would be a return to the Dark Ages.)

Paraphrased from: ~The Founder's Bible

The work we've done, and the value of the material we create is useless if we cannot continue to use it to help each other - even by constructive criticism. If we are separated by the identities we create rather than brought together, we cannot verify the results of our work, or rely upon the results we find independently by any means, and we will be returned to the delusions that separate us once again.